Support Group for Family Members?

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   Any other users that are family members of a loved one fighting TNBC?
I am so scared and feel as though I'm locked in a nightmare. My mom was diagnosed with TNBC in April 2009 at age 62. She had had a negative mammogram only 8 months prior. On diagnosis the tumor was 5 cm, the radiologist told her they never see them that big anymore. One week later it had doubled to almost 10 cm. The surgeon said she'd never considered breast cancer surgery an emergency until she met my mom. I'm an RN and before that worked 10 years in a pathology lab. I'd never heard of TNBC and was absolutely floored at the aggressiveness of this tumor. She underwent a mastectomy, then months of chemo and radiation. It reoccurred to 5 places (no organs) exactly one year later and she went back on chemo. Now her tumor markers have jumped exponentially and it looks as though there is extensive tumor in her other breast (which scanned clear 2 months ago). They are doing a PET next week to see exactly what they're dealing with throughout the body and then they will develop a plan.

I turned to denial often over the last 18 months and repeatedly told myself everything would be ok. Last night I was slapped in the face with a reality I feel I can barely take. The chemo obviously didn't work. I know there are more treatments they can try but so far this tumor seems to have just laughed in the face of everything they've thrown at it. Her markers are now double what they were just prior to her original surgery. 

I'm so scared at what we're facing with my mom and wonder how we're all going to cope. I hate the idea of her having to go through more treatments. I hate the idea of what will happen if she doesn't. I hate TNBC. I hate it all today. I lost my dad to a rare aggressive cancer, Mesothelioma, nine years ago at the age of 61. The entire experience broke my heart. But my mom. Oh my gosh, I just can't lose my mom.