http://caselaw.lp.findlaw.com/scripts/getcase.pl?court=ar&vol=appeals/2001b/20011205/ca01-510&invol=2

 

I am hoping to hear from others who have had TNBC, that have been asked for divorce. The laws are vague.

I don't know what a torte is.

 

http://www.divorcedex.com/divorce/Tort-Marital-Tort-Domestic-Tort-864.shtml - http://www.divorcedex.com/divorce/Tort-Marital-Tort-Domestic-Tort-864.shtml

Here is the brochure that you can give your lawyer that explains how TNBC works.

 

http://www.lbbc.org/content/media/living-beyond-breast-cancer-s-guide-to-understanding-triple-negative-breast-cancer.asp - http://www.lbbc.org/content/media/living-beyond-breast-cancer-s-guide-to-understanding-triple-negative-breast-cancer.asp

 

You can search the forum threads for other info on tn but I am sure no one has gone through divorce after or during their tx.  One of our members broke up with her bf but she made the decision, not him.  I wish you all the best and keep your faith, the judge will see what he is trying to do and what he has already done.  Bless you, Helen in NS

Lee in Denver

Lee in Denver

I've only been on this site for about 9 months, but truthfully, I don't remember anyone ever posting with this problem. I KNOW there has to be others!]

I will pray for you that you will have your day in court and come out a winner.

You know what goes around, comes around.

 

I love this scripture;

Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, "Vengeance is Mine, I will repay." says the Lord. Romans 12:19

 

Love and Prayers,

Carol

 

 

 

I was divorced before I was dx. There didn't seem to be many single moms out there when I was going thru it but they are/were out there. We haven't all had the most supportive situations. Worse are the ones that are married, getting no support and still having to serve their man. That has got to be lonely. At least you know where you stand. Divorce laws vary with every state. I would find out what your rights/state laws are. I was also advised to interview many attornies. Boy, was I glad I did. They all take a different approach. This way I truly had a basis of comparison and how that attorney would respond to certain situations.

 

Another  great piece of advice from a friend who had also been there: Happiness is the best revenge !

 

 

Good luck to you with your impending court date. Keep us posted. I do hope the courts will find a way to equalize the discrepencies somehow. You may also want to look up inheritance laws for your state. It seems like that may be the bigger issue if that is where all the money is coming from.

with apologies, I did not get to your thread until today....

I have no idea what the laws are in Arkansas....and it sounds like they are not very friendly to women 

BUT I would try to fight what you ex-to-be is doing. The most important document I think you can present is a strong letter from your oncologist presenting you medical condition completely and accurately complete with test results, hospital records, etc. I believe a judge will be supportive of your situation rather than punishing you, further.

Several years ago a woman told me that her husband matter-of-factly told her one night at dinner, after she shared the news of her recurrence, "I didn't sign up for this" and left..leaving her with two small children. Awful, awful stuff. Whatever happened to "I take thee in sickness and in health?"

Prissy, in my opinion, you need to make sure you are fighting as effectively as you can. Intuitively, I feel you are being trampled on and a good lawyer should be able to get more equitable treatment for you. There is something that is just 'wrong' about what is happening.

Prissy, I can tell you that there are many, many good men on this site who have been wonderfully supportive. I am saddened that your husband and his kids are acting the way they are.

When this is over....please try to concentrate on the positive things in your life and don't dwell on this disaster. Yes, I know easier said than done. Try to find the beauty in each day and live life to the fullest, as best you can. 

Thank you for sharing your experience...again, sorry didn't respond earlier..A lot of us look more on the Talk section..perhaps you can post there in the future?

Good luck at your hearing..

all the best,

Steve

MAY GOD BLESS US ALL

Diane

I'm sorry you're going through this. Your husband's reaction must have been quite a shock. It seems so many women struggle with support. I found a wonderful group at the local Wellness Community. You might see if there's one near you.

 

I believe we see people for who they are when something like this happens. It may not seem so now, but you'll eventually be happier without him. I was divorced in 2007 and diagnosed in 2009. I feel stronger and happier, relieved even that I am not married any more even though I struggle financially. Some men don't like women, don't understand us, don't want to. They usually don't change.

 

Here's a brief overview of Arkansas divorce law:

Arkansas Property Division Laws

In Arkansas property division law, each spouse is entitled to half of all the marital property. Marital property includes real property, personal property, stocks, bonds, life insurance policies, and retirement plans. Basically, it is everything that was acquired during the marriage. Exceptions to this rule are inheritance and gifts.

http://www.divorcesupport.com/divorce/Arkansas-Property-Division-Factors-432.html -

http://www.straightdivorce.com/arkansas_laws.asp - http://www.straightdivorce.com/arkansas_laws.asp

 

From my experience, if you are not satisfied with your attorney, get a new one right away. It's a lot like getting diagnosed with cancer, except it's the legal environment. You're faced with many life altering decisions very quickly and have to gather information that isn't always definitive. If you have someone in your life you trust, include them in your process...it's good to have a supportive sounding board.

 

Good luck! I look forward to hearing what happens in your case.

 

Linda

following up on Linda's excellent post....if you are really unhappy with your attorney and know of another one you might actually be able to get your July 30th date postponed. One key question might be whether the house, even though in your husband's name, solely can be considered "marital property." I hope so 

Please fight for whatever you are entitled to. Unfortunately, the only way there can be some 'fairness' here, financially, is with a lawyer's help. Sad, it has to be that way, but then again, it's all sad, huh?

all the best,

Steve