Jill - Sunbearz
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Topic: Jill - Sunbearz
Posted By: trip2
Subject: Jill - Sunbearz
Date Posted: Sep 15 2009 at 1:02pm
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I am so frustrated to report that I just read on the Komen board that Jill has gone into the hospital with alot of abdominal pain. She does have home hospice now.
She told a friend by phone she would still take more chemo if her body would just allow it.
Her children and family are with her.
 Jill please I pray they help get you well and back home. I will be with you in spirit dear, keep that spirit you've had all of these years.  ------------- Stage 2 2003 Stage 1 2007 BRCA 1+ |
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Posted By: dmwolf
Date Posted: Sep 15 2009 at 1:54pm
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sh*t. That just makes me sick and sad. She is such an amazing person, she just has to rally. Jill, we love you!!! Love, Denise ------------- DX 2/08@43 stg II IDC; gr2,0 nodes. Neoadj chemo, first ACx2 (fail) then CarboTaxotereX6(better). Lump, Rads done 11/08; Clodronate. False alarm queen: PetCT lung & TM marker. NED. PBM w/recon 9/10. |
Posted By: English Jan
Date Posted: Sep 15 2009 at 6:28pm
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Thanks for updating ..she lives a short ways from me but we never did get together .. She always opptomistic ..she's in my prayers. Many thanks English Jan ------------- FL. 58yrs DX LIDC 8/18/07. 08/23/07 Lump+SNB Node -ve. T2.5cms clear margins, TNBC, Stage 2A Grade 3. 9/18/07 TX Cytoxan+Taxotere.Neulasta.4x3 wks.Rads 30+5 FINISHED 28th Jan 2008. |
Posted By: Wendy2
Date Posted: Sep 16 2009 at 3:13am
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Jill
Know that we are all with you - please feel the love around you. God be with you.
Wendy ------------- dx 3/06 TN, taxotere/cytoxin x4; radiation x 40; mets. to lungs, lymph nodes 3/08 - to begin chemo 4/29/08 Abx/Avas., 9/08 Avastin maintenance, 1/09 - off meds to see if Avastin causing headaches |
Posted By: trip2
Date Posted: Sep 16 2009 at 5:20am
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Jill, sending strength your way and hope you are feeling better today.
We miss you. ------------- Stage 2 2003 Stage 1 2007 BRCA 1+ |
Posted By: Nancy
Date Posted: Sep 16 2009 at 8:04am
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Hey Jill,
Many hugs to you sweetie...I am thinking about you and sending healing light....and as Tai says..."I have you wrapped in a blanket of love".
Love,
Nancy ------------- Nancy DD Lori dx TNBC June 13,2007 Lumpectomy due to incorrect dx of a cyst mastectomy July 6 2007 chemo ACT all 3 every 3 weeks 6 tx Aug-Nov 28 rads ended Jan 2008 |
Posted By: MaryinSarasota
Date Posted: Sep 17 2009 at 11:13am
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Jill, You have strength and healing light being sent your way. Thinking of you, Mary ------------- 53 @ Dx 5/08 Stage 1, grade 3, IDC 1.6 cm, 0 nodes, TNBC, lumpectomy, chemo TAC-6, radiation-34 12/18/08 NED-10/09, PBM w/TE recon. 7/10, removal of TE/infec 8/10. CT chest. Rec fat-graft & stem cells |
Posted By: dmwolf
Date Posted: Sep 18 2009 at 9:10pm
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I have sh*tty news, you guys. I went to the Komen site and found out that our dear Jill, Sunbearz, died this morning at 1:30. with love and sorrow, Denise W ------------- DX 2/08@43 stg II IDC; gr2,0 nodes. Neoadj chemo, first ACx2 (fail) then CarboTaxotereX6(better). Lump, Rads done 11/08; Clodronate. False alarm queen: PetCT lung & TM marker. NED. PBM w/recon 9/10. |
Posted By: English Jan
Date Posted: Sep 18 2009 at 9:47pm
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Does anyone know Jill's family name or address so I can send a card. You're right sh*tty news English jan ------------- FL. 58yrs DX LIDC 8/18/07. 08/23/07 Lump+SNB Node -ve. T2.5cms clear margins, TNBC, Stage 2A Grade 3. 9/18/07 TX Cytoxan+Taxotere.Neulasta.4x3 wks.Rads 30+5 FINISHED 28th Jan 2008. |
Posted By: MaryinSarasota
Date Posted: Sep 19 2009 at 1:26am
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Thanks Denise, No words.. just in awe of the voracity/audacity of this. Love, Mary ------------- 53 @ Dx 5/08 Stage 1, grade 3, IDC 1.6 cm, 0 nodes, TNBC, lumpectomy, chemo TAC-6, radiation-34 12/18/08 NED-10/09, PBM w/TE recon. 7/10, removal of TE/infec 8/10. CT chest. Rec fat-graft & stem cells |
Posted By: trip2
Date Posted: Sep 19 2009 at 8:32am
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Yes, please PM me and I will give any of you Jill's address.
I posted this news this morning in the mets/recurrence forum and Lisa posted last evening in the Tribute Section...... such an incredible woman. ------------- Stage 2 2003 Stage 1 2007 BRCA 1+ |
Posted By: dmwolf
Date Posted: Sep 19 2009 at 12:28pm
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Jill had such a huge impact on so many women's lives, here and elsewhere. She was such a fighter, so full of love and life and humor. She could be counted on to encourage us when we were feeling low, to offer compassion and wisdom when we needed it, and to kick up her heels and laugh if something struck her as funny. She kept reaching for what is real, finding beautiful reasons to live with gusto even as her symptoms multiplied and her body failed her. She was a beacon to all who knew her, a real tower of strength. She never gave up, and encouraged all of us to savor our lives and NEVER GIVE UP. These I think were her parting words to the women at Komen. At death's door, she wanted us to hear this message on the sanctity of life, the preciousness of the souls inhabiting our bodies. We are not our bodies, she would say. Not our hair, not our cancers, nor our physical forms. We are the souls that reside within, visiting this beautiful planet. Rest in peace, Jill. It sucks beyond comprehension that you, or any woman, had to lose your life to this disease. love, Denise W. ------------- DX 2/08@43 stg II IDC; gr2,0 nodes. Neoadj chemo, first ACx2 (fail) then CarboTaxotereX6(better). Lump, Rads done 11/08; Clodronate. False alarm queen: PetCT lung & TM marker. NED. PBM w/recon 9/10. |
Posted By: Wendy2
Date Posted: Sep 20 2009 at 3:16am
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Jill's family
Deepest Sympathy.
Wendy ------------- dx 3/06 TN, taxotere/cytoxin x4; radiation x 40; mets. to lungs, lymph nodes 3/08 - to begin chemo 4/29/08 Abx/Avas., 9/08 Avastin maintenance, 1/09 - off meds to see if Avastin causing headaches |
Posted By: BrendaF
Date Posted: Sep 20 2009 at 4:53am
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I just saw this this morning on Facebook. So, so sorry to Jill's family. ------------- Dx 2005 2 cm, 5/12 nodes, A/C + T, 28 rads. Dx mets 12/07 mediastinal and supraclavicular nodes, carbo + taxotere X 6. brain, lymph, pleura, bone mets. Started Xeloda 8/24/09 |
Posted By: rena
Date Posted: Sep 20 2009 at 7:01am
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Hi everyone. I'm sorry, I don't have an address for Jill's family. We asked one of the Komen administrators, Zach, to set up a page so that we could make donations in Jill's name. Komen sent her a card when she was in Hospice (I hope she got it) telling her about this, as she was always saying that if everyone gave a dollar, there'd be enough money to finally find a cure. If only that were true. If anyone wants to donate--even a dollar--in her honor or memory, here is the link: http://ww5.komen.org/donate/donateonline.html. Jill was an amazing woman who didn't believe in giving up. And still, when she knew it was time, she let go with grace. Rena ------------- Diagnosed 9/86. 1 cm tumor, 22 positive lymph nodes. CMFVP chemo, weekly for one year. 7 weeks radiation. BRCA2-positive. Multiple attempts at reconstruction (three's a charm) |
Posted By: rena
Date Posted: Sep 20 2009 at 7:02am
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Hi everyone. I'm sorry, I don't have an address for Jill's family. We asked one of the Komen administrators, Zach, to set up a page so that we could make donations in Jill's name. Komen sent her a card when she was in Hospice (I hope she got it) telling her about this, as she was always saying that if everyone gave a dollar, there'd be enough money to finally find a cure. If only that were true. If anyone wants to donate--even a dollar--in her honor or memory, here is the link:
http://ww5.komen.org/donate/donateonline.html Jill was an amazing woman who didn't believe in giving up. And still, when she knew it was time, she let go with grace. Rena ------------- Diagnosed 9/86. 1 cm tumor, 22 positive lymph nodes. CMFVP chemo, weekly for one year. 7 weeks radiation. BRCA2-positive. Multiple attempts at reconstruction (three's a charm) |
Posted By: dmwolf
Date Posted: Sep 20 2009 at 7:15am
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Rena, could you please tell us about her death. How did she let go 'with grace'? How did she know it was time? The only way I ever 'saw' her was in fighting mode. Love, Denise W ------------- DX 2/08@43 stg II IDC; gr2,0 nodes. Neoadj chemo, first ACx2 (fail) then CarboTaxotereX6(better). Lump, Rads done 11/08; Clodronate. False alarm queen: PetCT lung & TM marker. NED. PBM w/recon 9/10. |
Posted By: dmwolf
Date Posted: Sep 20 2009 at 7:15am
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Oh, and Pam has an address. Pam, can you post it here or do you feel it's more respectful to give it out privately through pm when people request it? thx, d ------------- DX 2/08@43 stg II IDC; gr2,0 nodes. Neoadj chemo, first ACx2 (fail) then CarboTaxotereX6(better). Lump, Rads done 11/08; Clodronate. False alarm queen: PetCT lung & TM marker. NED. PBM w/recon 9/10. |
Posted By: Nancy
Date Posted: Sep 20 2009 at 7:36am
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Rena,
Your link.
Nancy
http://ww5.komen.org/donate/donateonline.html - http://ww5.komen.org/donate/donateonline.html ------------- Nancy DD Lori dx TNBC June 13,2007 Lumpectomy due to incorrect dx of a cyst mastectomy July 6 2007 chemo ACT all 3 every 3 weeks 6 tx Aug-Nov 28 rads ended Jan 2008 |
Posted By: rena
Date Posted: Sep 20 2009 at 7:55am
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Denise, I guess it depends on how you define grace. To some, it implies a kind of passive acceptance. To me, it means leaving this earth the way you lived your life. As you know, there was nothing passive about Jill. I wasn't there, of course, and can only tell you what I know from Jill's last posts on Komen and from some of her friends who posted. While I guess she did stay in fighting mode in some ways, in her posts she acknowledged that there were no more treatments and that she needed a wheelchair for safety reasons. I think that her body made it clear that she was reaching the end of her fight. She continued, for as long as she could, coming to Komen to encourage the other women there dealing with stage IV. She was somehow able to do that while still telling the truth about her situation. Someone on Komen said that there had better be kayaks in Heaven. I like that image of Jill in her kayak. I didn't mean to present myself as an expert on Jill or her life. These are just my observations and my feelings. Take care. Rena ------------- Diagnosed 9/86. 1 cm tumor, 22 positive lymph nodes. CMFVP chemo, weekly for one year. 7 weeks radiation. BRCA2-positive. Multiple attempts at reconstruction (three's a charm) |
Posted By: trip2
Date Posted: Sep 20 2009 at 2:42pm
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Yes I do have Jill's address if anyone would like to PM me I'd be happy to give it to you.
Denise, I hate to put it in the forum for privacy reasons.  ------------- Stage 2 2003 Stage 1 2007 BRCA 1+ |