Sharing sad news-CalGal
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Topic: Sharing sad news-CalGal
Posted By: PineHouse
Subject: Sharing sad news-CalGal
Date Posted: Feb 20 2009 at 1:12pm
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With a deepest sorrow, I’m sharing sad news with you that CalGal passed away last night, with her husband and other family members by her side. She was a fierceful fighter and may the fond memory of her always be with us. For those of you in ------------- Stage IV lung-06/06 brain-12/08 BRCA1 TNBC Avastin+Taxol,Carboplatin,PARP-Inhibitor,Navelbine+Xeloda,Avastin+Ixempra,Doxil+Cytoxan Currently Abraxane+Gemzar (3/09) http://pinehouse.wordpress.com/ |
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Posted By: Nancy
Date Posted: Feb 20 2009 at 1:48pm
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Oh Pinehouse,
Thank you so much for telling us...I had such a beautiful card from her at Christmas, with pictures of her and her husband in Ireland.
She was such a beautiful person...so kind, and was the first person to reply to me when I joined the site. Oh Pinehouse, she will be missed so much. I do have her address, and do you think her husband would object to me posting it?
Much love, as I know you will miss her terribly,
Nancy ------------- Nancy DD Lori dx TNBC June 13,2007 Lumpectomy due to incorrect dx of a cyst mastectomy July 6 2007 chemo ACT all 3 every 3 weeks 6 tx Aug-Nov 28 rads ended Jan 2008 |
Posted By: trip2
Date Posted: Feb 20 2009 at 2:11pm
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We've lost another wonderful young woman who helped so many people over the last few years including me.
I have her picture here by my computer and just today I was looking at her and thinking I need to check in with her. So heartbreaking to loose such a precious young lady. This is so very sad to hear.
My prayers and blessings to her friends and family.  ------------- Stage 2 2003 Stage 1 2007 BRCA 1+ |
Posted By: Lauriejn
Date Posted: Feb 20 2009 at 2:12pm
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damn ------------- Dx Oct2008- IDC Gr 3/Stage 3C Mastectomy 11/7/08- 6/21 nodes Bone Mets dx Dec 2008-Stage 4 Albany, NY BRCA neg |
Posted By: CarynRose
Date Posted: Feb 20 2009 at 2:12pm
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I just can't bear this. ------------- Orig dx 6/03 - St.2a, IDC gr.3,0 nodes, TNBC/BRCA1+ 7/07 St 4 mets to nodes/lungs. PACA/Rads NED 11/07-10/08 Lepto mets 10/08 Rads for 4 brain tumors 4/10. Leptomets return 6/10 |
Posted By: texasgirl
Date Posted: Feb 20 2009 at 2:24pm
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Hi Pinehouse,, Thanks for letting us know. My deepest sympathy goes out to her friends and family. I had not been on the site for awhile and sent her an e-mail after I found out about it traveled to her brain. I was privileged to have met with you both at the Mets conference a couple of years ago. She definitely was a fighter and from her e-mails it sounds like the last couple of years she made the most of her life by traveling and spending time with her friends and family. It does give me some peace to know that she will be with her mother that also lost her life way too early to this horrible disease. I know this a big loss for you since you were so close. Both of you have been a wonderful inspiration to me. Know that both of you have been pioneers’ to all the triple negative and BRCA community by going through so many clinical trials and different combination of chemo’s. I think I have her address, but if you can reply or PM me with it along with a link to her obituary. Cindy------------- dx 5/11/07 (Age 41), Stage IIIC, Grade 3, 12 weekly taxol, 4 FAC, 8.5 cm, Extensive positive nodes, Masectomy 0/17 nodes, 30 Rads, Currently NED |
Posted By: sunbearz
Date Posted: Feb 20 2009 at 2:25pm
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My deepest sympathy.We learn and fight for those before us and after us.Who ever we meet and touch during the journey strenghthens the link we all share.
Jill ------------- Dx 1998 mast.Bone mets 2003 ac/xeloda,zometa,taxotere,,doxcil,rads to hip triple neg brca-gemsar Abraxine 2008 -gemsar/taxol combo Taxotere ,Ixempra,liver, lung Mets Testosterone |
Posted By: dmwolf
Date Posted: Feb 20 2009 at 3:21pm
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I'm so sad to hear this. From her posts I could tell how full of life and love she was. f**k this disease. With love and sorrow, Denise ------------- DX 2/08@43 stg II IDC; gr2,0 nodes. Neoadj chemo, first ACx2 (fail) then CarboTaxotereX6(better). Lump, Rads done 11/08; Clodronate. False alarm queen: PetCT lung & TM marker. NED. PBM w/recon 9/10. |
Posted By: Lisa L
Date Posted: Feb 20 2009 at 3:21pm
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Rest in peace CalGal. We will miss you. ------------- Dx 8/05 age 43 mast & lat flap 10/05 Triple neg BRCA neg IDC 4.5cm rt br 0/1 sen node 6 A/C 5 Taxol, 25 rads 11/05-6/06 Central Illinois Currently NED |
Posted By: nosurrender
Date Posted: Feb 20 2009 at 4:31pm
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This is such sad news. I never knew anyone like Julie. She was an amazing woman and so very dear. My heart is breaking. We have had so many losses lately. May God bless her and give comfort to her dear husband, and warm hugs to all of you as well. Sadly, Gina ------------- www.nosurrenderbreastcancerhelp.com |
Posted By: Bunnysmama
Date Posted: Feb 20 2009 at 5:28pm
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Thank you for sharing the news, although I wish this didn't have to be. She was a fighter and a beautiful person. She was also young and should have had so much more life to live. My heart breaks for her and her family. May she rest in peace. ------------- Dx 11/06 @ age 37 IDC Stage I, Grade 3 BRCA2+ |
Posted By: CalGal
Date Posted: Feb 20 2009 at 6:55pm
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[This is CalGal's husband] Hello all, Thanks, everyone, for your prayers and thoughts for Julie. She'd be proud and honored to know she helped so many of you fight this terrible disease. There will be a service on Friday, February 27 in Saratoga, California. Julie grew up there and will be buried next to her beloved Mom, whose life was also cut short by breast cancer. There will also be a service in Los Angeles, probably the following weekend. I'll post some details when it's more finalized. For those of you who may want to attend the Saratoga service, please email or PM me and I'll give you details. Pictures tell the story better. Here's one of me and my Angel:  ------------- BRCA1 9/04 Bi-lat lump, clear SNB 38x Rad'tn 12/05 Recurr bc & mets to liver 06 the year of chemo NED for 13 mos until 7/07 Lung met. PARP trial until ... 2/08 Liver mets again |
Posted By: Nancy
Date Posted: Feb 20 2009 at 7:14pm
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Dear Tris,
I am siiting here crying as I type....and I cannot express what I am feeling to you. Julie was always so sweet and kind to everyone here on the site....and I know she was that way to all who knew and loved her.
She will be greatly missed....but never forgotten. We will speak of her often, and will tell the new women of her fight with this disease. Thank you so very much for writing to us....and may you now find peace knowing that she does not have to fight any longer. She is at peace.
Much love to you and her family
Nancy....Lori's mom ------------- Nancy DD Lori dx TNBC June 13,2007 Lumpectomy due to incorrect dx of a cyst mastectomy July 6 2007 chemo ACT all 3 every 3 weeks 6 tx Aug-Nov 28 rads ended Jan 2008 |
Posted By: josie33
Date Posted: Feb 21 2009 at 8:46am
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Please accept my deepest condolences on the passing of your extraordinarily brave wife, whom I never met but feel I knew in a small but profound way through reading her posts on this forum. Although i know her loss is painful and incomprehensible, I hope you take some solace in the fact that she is no longer suffering. My prayers and best wishes to you and your family. As Nancy said, she will not be forgotten. Josie (sister of Lisa, DX'd with TNBC in Nov.2008) |
Posted By: krisa
Date Posted: Feb 21 2009 at 10:16am
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Thank you so much for sharing that beautiful picture and for keeping us informed. Sending prayers to you and your family.  |
Posted By: Barb-42
Date Posted: Feb 21 2009 at 5:43pm
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I am very sorry for your loss.
My prayers are with you and your family. Barb ------------- dx-1/2/08 @ 42 yrs.old lumpectomy w/close margins/ 1/14/08- no nodes/stage 1/gr.3 1.5 CM IDC chemo-AC-3 Dose Dense Taxol wkly 12- 2/21/08-7/17/08 Rads-33 w/8 boosts 8/6/08-9/22/08 BRCA 1/2 Neg. |
Posted By: billie
Date Posted: Feb 21 2009 at 5:54pm
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I sit here trying to type through eyes filled with tears,and a heart that is weighing so heavy with sorrow that it fills as if it could at any moment break into.
Billie for my beautiful sister Betty ------------- Billie posting for sis Betty/67/caucasion female/diagnosed 2-27-08/gradeIII/7mm/invasive ductal carcinoma/T N /clear margins/node neg/4 X's taxotere-cytoxan/36 rads/7-08 PET/CT double image/no cancer |
Posted By: BrendaF
Date Posted: Feb 22 2009 at 4:03am
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Tris, I am so sorry. I have been worried since our Julie had such a hard time at the holidays - then disappeared from the boards. I dreamed of her over and over last night.
She was in such a quandary last fall over whether or not to take the trip to Ireland. I hope you both were glad that you went and that you don't have any regrets. ------------- Dx 2005 2 cm, 5/12 nodes, A/C + T, 28 rads. Dx mets 12/07 mediastinal and supraclavicular nodes, carbo + taxotere X 6. brain, lymph, pleura, bone mets. Started Xeloda 8/24/09 |
Posted By: Kathleen
Date Posted: Feb 22 2009 at 8:33pm
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To CalGal's family, I too am very sad to hear of your loss. She was and will continue to be an inspiration to many on this site. I will keep your family in my thoughts and prayers. Kathleen ------------- Yours Online, Kathleen 12/99 bc initial dx-stage 1, Nottingham-tenovus cells - bilateral mast. 6/08 TN cells, only in lungs Treatments: 6/08-5/09 Taxol & Carboplatin. 5/09+ Xeloda. |
Posted By: Wendy2
Date Posted: Feb 25 2009 at 3:42am
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CalGal's family;
I haven't been on here in a week or so. I am so very sad to hear this news and shocked. She and I connected too, as she did with many of us. Thank you for sharing her with us and for sending us a beautiful photo. Thought and prayers are with you.
Very sincerely,
Wendy ------------- dx 3/06 TN, taxotere/cytoxin x4; radiation x 40; mets. to lungs, lymph nodes 3/08 - to begin chemo 4/29/08 Abx/Avas., 9/08 Avastin maintenance, 1/09 - off meds to see if Avastin causing headaches |
Posted By: PineHouse
Date Posted: Feb 25 2009 at 4:57am
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An announcement from a rep on behalf of the family:
After a 4 year battle with breast cancer, I am sorry to relate that Julie Ann (Cook) Carpenter died on Friday, February 20, 2009 in her Los Angeles home, peacefully and surrounded by family. Her courage and grace during that battle were an inspiration to all who knew her. Born in San Francisco in August, 1962 to Roy Cook and the late Ann Cook, Julie grew up in Saratoga, California. She graduated from the University of California at Santa Cruz with a Bachelors Degree, and from the University of Southern California with a Master of Arts in Urban Planning. She worked for the County of Los Angeles for over twenty years, mostly with the Department of Beaches and Harbors. She also served as President of the Miracle Mile Residential Association from 1999 to 2001. She is survived by her husband, Tristram; her father Roy and her stepmother Ana of Saratoga; her brother Greg and sister-in-law Jean, and their children Landon and Gemma, of Oakland. She will always be loved and remembered by her family, and will be greatly missed. She will be buried in Saratoga, California with a memorial service in Los Angeles on March 7.
Breast Cancer Patient Advocate Los Angeles, CA 818-970-9446 ------------- Stage IV lung-06/06 brain-12/08 BRCA1 TNBC Avastin+Taxol,Carboplatin,PARP-Inhibitor,Navelbine+Xeloda,Avastin+Ixempra,Doxil+Cytoxan Currently Abraxane+Gemzar (3/09) http://pinehouse.wordpress.com/ |
Posted By: Nancy
Date Posted: Feb 25 2009 at 8:09am
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Pinehouse,
Thank you so much for posting this. Julie was the same age as our Lori. It is just so wonderful to read that her family has reached out already to all the women who are searching for new treatment options.
Again,
Thank you,
Nancy
------------- Nancy DD Lori dx TNBC June 13,2007 Lumpectomy due to incorrect dx of a cyst mastectomy July 6 2007 chemo ACT all 3 every 3 weeks 6 tx Aug-Nov 28 rads ended Jan 2008 |
Posted By: kikidan
Date Posted: Feb 26 2009 at 3:39pm
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To CalGal's Family,
Please accept my deepest sympathy. I am sorry to hear that Julie's battle is over.
Sincerely........Kiki
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Posted By: cynbatt
Date Posted: Mar 04 2009 at 5:15am
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I feel your pain and hope that you can find the strength to get through this time. You photo was beautiful, thanks for sending it! We always think of those who meant so much to us. They are special in our hearts forever.
With sadness,
Cindy
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Posted By: SagePatientAdvocates
Date Posted: Jul 07 2009 at 7:38am
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Dear all,
I first met Julie on a BRCA message board several years ago. I made a suggestion to her in a post and gave her my email and we corresponded off the board and then about six months later I met her about an hour before a support dinner we were both going to. We walked around Westwood and I can still vividly remember what we talked about and the very strong impression she left on me that is still in my heart. She was a marvelous, caring woman. Very bright and very committed to helping others despite her own agonizing battle. I met her husband, Tris, at dinner that night. A lovely man. Going to her funeral some months ago was a profoundly sad experience for me but it was very uplifting as well. Different women spoke so beautifully about who Julie was, the work she did and the work that remains to be done. She is part of the reason I am an advocate and I want to thank her for that. Rest in peace, dear Julie. with fond memories and deep respect for what she did for others. Steve ------------- I am a BRCA1+ grandson, son and father of women affected by breast/oc-my daughter inherited mutation from me, and at 36, was dx 2004 TNBC I am a volunteer patient advocate with SAGE Patient Advocates |