off topic-I may have prostate cancer

Thanks for sharing and so glad you did.  You know we all love you and will lift you up dear friend.  We will be waiting on the results with you and hoping you can be renamed False Positive too!  I have all my fingers, toes and eyes crossed.

Hugs,

Donna

Thank you, all, for your kind wishes. I just read the whole thread and was deeply moved by the sincerity of your words and realize how lucky I am to have such a wonderful TNBC supportive family. 

Whatever happens, if is very comforting to me to know that you are all in my corner. In fact, we are all here for each other in a gentle, intelligent, caring way and that is the hallmark of this wonderful resource. 

There was a wonderful, spunky lady who posted as Caryn Rose who first introduced me to this forum many years ago. She received wonderful support here as she fought the fight and suggested I come here. I am so thankful to her for that introduction. From the first moment I felt welcome and have been ever since.

By the way, I don't think I ever shared my first meeting with Caryn Rose. We had spoken on the phone, corresponded a lot, for maybe a year but never met. She lived in New Jersey and I in Los Angeles. We were 'cousins' in that she had the exact BRCA mutation I and my daughter have and she, like my daughter, had TNBC. She was in active treatment and we agreed to meet in the waiting room of the hospital. "How will we know each other?" I asked...I don't think we had pictures on the site in those days..."we will find each other...I will be posting" and sure enough there was Caryn in the corner of the room typing away...and we joyfully embraced. She had just finished a radiation therapy session but found the time to introduce me to a ton of friends, nurses and even an administrator who gave me a tour of the facility. She then drove me to her house where we picked up her in-laws and we went to a Jersey diner, which is always a treat.

I guess the point I am making is that the culture of caring that she described is still here and it is so very, very precious. As best she could, she was always supportive and informative to all of us. Obviously, I don't know what next week will bring but my heart will always be here even if at certain times, my fingers, will not. And I know everyone will understand. Everyone 'gets' it here. There is no requirement to post and people, sometimes, return after a long absence and they are always welcomed with love and support. The re-entry is seamless as it should be. There are no cliques here which might make people uncomfortable. Sure, when you are here for awhile you know more people than a newbie, and friendships are formed away from the site, which is great, but a newbie will find, I believe, a lovely warm welcome and continued support for as long as they desire. And there is one woman, A, whose friendship I cherish who reads everything posted every day but doesn't post. A, thank you for your beautiful text and sending you and S. cyber hugs.

with my love for all and thank you again for helping me with my angst,

Steve

 

As for telling your family...........I had that decision to make myself last year right around this time.......lump found 5/29.........Biopsy 6/4..........My son was graduating from his MBA program 6/9 and all my kids/spouses/girlfriends were going to be there for the event.  Do I tell them now about what I'm facing or do I wait until I know.  Since all of them live out-of-town I thought a face to face talk telling them about the biopsy/lump was better than after the weekend telling them by phone with all of them being shocked that I didn't say anything at the time.  So I plunged through it......I managed to be able to tell each of them separately and I'm so glad I did. I asked them all to pray for me.  When I got my news on Mon. 6/11 I was a bit of a basket case and ended up very emotional as I called each one.  I also called as many of my extended family and friends so they could pray for me.  I firmly believe in the power of prayer.  I have put you and your family on my prayer list.  Here's hoping for good news!

I just saw your posts a few minutes ago.  I am so sorry you are faced with this horrible waiting for answers from a bioposy.  Just know that I am praying for you, whatever the outcome and, "May it be Negative dear God".

 

You made a good decision to include your family in this; also a good decision to share it with your TNBC family.  All of us want to support you in these anxious days.

 

Love and God Bless,

Lillie

Lot of kisses from Brazil with hope that the results will be negative!!!!

Judy

Mainy

 

I just saw your post.  I hope that you are feeling better.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and I am hoping that you soon will hear the words "false positive." 

 

your friend,

Michelle