Dear joyjiang,
As a parent whose daughter was diagnosed with TNBC when she was 36 I understand your "broken heart." Mine was broken, too, but hopefully yours can heal too, as mine has, as my daughter is approaching 18 years of being NED (No Evidence of Diesease), in my opinion, the nicest acronym in the English language.
I am not a medical professional but I think your daughter, if she hasn't already, should consider seeing a Certified Genetic Counselor, and get tested to see if she has a gene mutation that caused her to have a pre-disposition to getting breast cancer at such a young age. Even if there is no history of breast or ovarian cancer on the maternal side of your family she may have inherited a gene mutation from her dad and dad may never
have had cancer but passed the mutation on to your daughter.
That is what happened with my daughter. I inherited the BRCA gene mutation from my mother and she from her mother. And, even though I have not had cancer, I passed the mutation to my daughter.
It can be very important for your daughter to know if she has a mutation that is deleterious. It may affect her treatment/surgery plan.
If you have any questions you can send me a PM or and email to
info@sagepatientadvocates.org and we can talk. I am not a medical professional and will not give you medical advice but I will try my best to be a good resource for you and your daughter and there are no charges.
warmly,
Steve