Taharadale,

Hey sweetie....sorry u had to join, but I can promise u this.....LOTS OF LOVING LADIES and MEN on here. I am 36 and u can see my signature below. I met women during chemo that was stage I and yes they did do chemo. Of course it is an individual choice. I have also met women doing chemo who knew their tumors did not have hormone receptors. They were triple negative and did not know anything about it......I believe knowledge is POWER.......

Please make sure your oncologist is learned and very familar with triple negative cancers - that is so very important.

I said this before, and I will repeat it...I wish I had chemo and I think I do worry more than I would have otherwise. 

Hey Sara - don't you pass that critical 2 year mark this summer?  Once we get past the 2 year mark our odds drop dramatically - CONGRATS!  When I get to 2 years I start seeing my medical oncologist every 6 months instead of every 3 - WOOT! 

I hear you - I think we want to do the RIGHT thing!  That time of indecision is very difficult.  I think you do need to listen to yourself, God, and gather information.  It seems like there is no person just telling you what to do, that is what I think I was looking for.  I am borderline everything, size, age, etc.  .5 cm, 58 years old.  I finally decided to go with radiation.  I don't know if this was the right choice - but imagine I will down the road.  After radiation I am going to continue what I call my chemotherapy - (what I can do) by staying on the low fat diet and daily exercise.  I know that God has a plan for me - sometimes we get overloaded with so much information we don't know which way to turn.  I wish you the best and know that you aren't on this journey alone.    Mary

I am glad you chose the way you did.  All of us question it, and God knows, I dreaded it so much, but I went as agressive as I could.  Will it allow me to live longer and not die of cancer, I can only hope, but at least, when all is said and done, and all of your treatment is behind you (and that will happen, I promise!), at least you won't spend the rest of your life asking "woulda, coulda, shoulda".  Best of luck to you - hope your chemo journey is a relatively easy one.

Cheryl,

Articles like this make me sick to my stomach.  I know I cannot turn back the clock, but it really worries me.  Especially today when I went to my orthopaedist to confim that my neck pain is just a run of the mill pain in the neck.  The x-ray did not show anything, and he said my symptoms are consistant wih a cartiledge irritation which should resolve on its own in a few weeks.  Without a MRI he cannot completely rule out mets.  I have decided to wait it out.  He is sending a note to my oncologist though.  Sorry, did not mean to hijack the thread, but see what anxiety you go thru when you don't get the chemo?

Sara,

I didn't mean to cause you any undue anxiety.  I think we all worry that we made the right decisions.  There are things I know now that I wish I would have known at dx and tx.   I wonder if the anxiety will ever truly go away.  I think people like Kirby and Rena are great to give us hope that many do survive tnbc.

Donna