Monarch,
I agree with Mainy. It's time to look into a 2nd opinion. My first onc would answer my calls, emails, faxes (yes, this was 10 years ago). I felt part of the team with her and that she valued my questions, yes, I had many at each visit, never devalued me, saw the urgency with treating TNBC. When she left the practice on a sabbatical after I was treated for the recurrence, I was crushed. How could I go on? Well onc #2 was a total disappointment. How can you have a follow up visit without even examining the patient? I fired this one and moved on to another brilliant onc, who was head of breast oncology at another NCCN facility. I guess what I'm trying to say I've had some brilliant, kind, compassionate doctors who were the top in their field. You'd never guess based upon their humbleness and compassion. I've had a couple rotten ones, who had that god-like demeanor. What I've learned is when you get someone that dismisses you, doesn't respond to you, it's time to move on.
If you are having trouble with a second opinion or changing doctors, we have a patient advocate in this group that has helped many of us. Steve (SagePatientAdvocates) has worked tirelessly to help some of us out. If you need help, you can PM Steve or let us know and we will reach out to him. He's not as active on the forum as he was, but always willing to help out.
Donna
Edited by 123Donna - Jun 25 2019 at 7:08pm