My daughter is 37 and found a lump in Sept of 2006.  Lumpectomy and they didn't get good margins.  Surgery no. 2 they say was clean.  No lymph involvement.  She had chemo and then radiation.  One month after her radiation she found a lump in her other breast.  She opted for a double mastectomy.  She then started chemo and on her third week of chemo she found another lump where her breasts used to be.  They stopped chemo (obviously it wasn't working) and started on radiation.  She just finished up radiation and they did bone and CT scans.  They found 2 spots in her right lung and 1 spot in her left lung.  The most horrible words I ever heard was the doctor said "I don't have a drug to treat you."  We go to the oncologist tomorrow and we are hoping he scheduled this appointment because he found a clinical trial.  She is strong and I am on valium so I don't cry all the time.  Especially in front of my grandsons.  Never any cancer in our family at all.  I am 57 and healthy and my Mom is 76 and healthy for her age.  I guess I came here because it feels good to talk it out to others that understand the devastation this insidious disease brings to the whole family.  And now I am looking for any and all information I can get my hands on.  I never wanted to ever know this much about breast cancer. 

Thank you cg.  By the way, we just now are learning the term "triple negative."  I sure am learning a lot here also. 

Cancer patients are my heroes.

Oh good grief,  to both of you.  How heartbreaking it must be for you to see your daughter go thru so much, my gosh and in such a short period of time!

I am so sorry to hear about your daughter - I can only imagine how difficult it is to deal with.  I was dx at 55 and just can't imagine either of my girls going through this.  I am so glad you are there for her.  You are in my thoughts and prayers.   Take care.

Boy have I cried and it is nice to have found a place that understands.  My daughter's name is Sativa and I am in northern california about 1 hour from her.  She does have drug resistant metastatic metaplastic triple negative breast cancer.  Only 1 other person at her hospital has ever taken the drugs she is taking now.  It is one day at a time and we try and focus on a joyous event in the near future.  The event we are focusing on now is a trip to watch the San Francisco Giants play baseball against the NY Mets.  I don't know how I became a Yankee fan and she became a Met fan.  Both of us are huge baseball fans and both of us played softball for years.  We will leave our hubbies and her kids at home and just she and I will go.  It is something to focus on instead of waiting and wondering if this drug is working.  Gosh how I wish I had the cancer and not her.  As a Mom, you feel so helpless.

God bless all of you on this board. 
Annette

I will be praying for you and Sativa, Annette.  And I hope you have a wonderful time at your baseball game.  What a fun trip for a mother and daughter!  You are right, these are the things we focus on right now.  To focus on the treatment, the disease, all the time is too exhausting and makes us crazy.  Focus on life and the love between you and your daughter! Have a wonderful time!

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