The passing of our Dear Brenda |
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MaryinSarasota 
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 Topic: The passing of our Dear BrendaPosted: Apr 15 2010 at 10:04am |
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Mary, Brenda has just died this morning. She
was lying in her bed, and I was next to her, holding her hand while I was
reading her a letter and the Facebook posts that you and others had sent. And
then she just pretty much stopped breathing. I told her that I loved her, about
all of the others that do, that she was a great partner and a wonderful best
friend, that she had a great life and did many good things. I kissed her and
stroked her hair. I continued to tell her as she gasped her last few dying
breaths. It was just the way she said that she wanted to go. Her struggle is
over; we'll all have to get by on what we've already learned from her now.
Please let her TNBC friends know that she is gone. Thanks, Greg Like the rest of you I am so saddened by this loss. Brenda was a very different spark of light in our little group. ♥Mary Edited by MaryinSarasota - Apr 15 2010 at 10:16am |
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53 @ Dx 5/08 Stage 1, grade 3, IDC 1.6 cm, 0 nodes, TNBC, lumpectomy, chemo TAC-6, radiation-34 12/18/08
NED-10/09, PBM w/TE recon. 7/10, removal of TE/infec 8/10. CT chest. Rec fat-graft & stem cells |
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SagePatientAdvocates
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Posted: Apr 15 2010 at 10:31am |
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Dear Greg,
thank you for sharing the beautiful loving, story and Mary, thank you, too you have my heartfelt condolences, Steve
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I am a BRCA1+ grandson, son and father of women affected by breast/oc-my daughter inherited mutation from me, and at 36, was dx 2004 TNBC I am a volunteer patient advocate with SAGE Patient Advocates
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dmwolf
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Posted: Apr 15 2010 at 10:56am |
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Oh, man. I knew it was coming, but it is still wrenching. My tears are falling for a great spirit gone too soon.
Love, Denise |
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DX 2/08@43 stg II IDC; gr2,0 nodes. Neoadj chemo, first ACx2 (fail) then CarboTaxotereX6(better). Lump, Rads done 11/08; Clodronate. False alarm queen: PetCT lung & TM marker. NED. PBM w/recon 9/10.
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Carol (Tenn)
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Posted: Apr 15 2010 at 11:09am |
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I am soooo sorry....my tears are falling as well....my prayers for her family and friends..
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St 2 Gr 3, A/C/T, DD
Radiation x35 Rec chest wall 07/09 Radiation x28 NED 10/24/11 NED 10/5/12 NED 03/15/13 |
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Posted: Apr 15 2010 at 11:20am |
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I'm so very sorry. My prayers are going out to her family. |
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Michele,PA,55
Dx 8-04,IDC, Gr.3,3 CM Lumpectomy w/SNB,9-04,clear margins,Triple Negative 4A/C,4TA,Rads, BRCA 1 & 2, negative |
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mainsailset
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Posted: Apr 15 2010 at 11:21am |
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The Little Ship
I stood watching as the little ship sailed out to sea
The setting sun tinted her white sails with a golden light and as she disappeared from sight a voice at my side whispered, "She is gone"
But the sea was a narrow one. On the farther shore a little band of friends had gathered to watch and wait in happy expectation. Suddenly they caught sight of the very tiny sail and, at the very moment when my companion had whispered "She is gone", a glad shout went up in joyous welcome. "Here she comes"!!
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dx 7/08 TN 14x6.5x5.5 cm tumor
3 Lymph nodes involved, Taxol/Sunitab+AC, 5/09 dbl masectomy, path 2mm tumor removed, lymphs all clear, RAD 32 finished 9/11/09. 9/28 CT clear 10/18/10 CT clear |
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lisab
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Posted: Apr 15 2010 at 1:00pm |
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Dear Greg, I am so sorry to hear this. You have my deepest sympathy.
Love and hugs, Lisa B. |
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Diagnosed June 2004. Lumpectomy and radiation. BRCA2+. PBM w/DIEP Recon March 2005. Mets in chest wall June 2007. Chemo (Gemzar and Carboplatin) with radiation completed January 2008 - 5+ years ago.
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Posted: Apr 15 2010 at 3:12pm |
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MY deepest sympathies....
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~Sara
DX @ age 40 6/24/08 Stage 1 Grade 3 BRCA1+ 187delAG BMX (nipple-areola-sparing) 8/5/08 Redo BMX (remove nipple and areola) w/ Lat Flap 7/6/09 BSO 9/3/09 NED since 08/05/2008 |
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Nancy
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Posted: Apr 15 2010 at 5:14pm |
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Dear Greg,
Deepest sympathies from me and my daughter Lori.
Sincerely,
Nancy
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Nancy
DD Lori dx TNBC June 13,2007 Lumpectomy due to incorrect dx of a cyst mastectomy July 6 2007 chemo ACT all 3 every 3 weeks 6 tx Aug-Nov 28 rads ended Jan 2008 |
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Posted: Apr 15 2010 at 5:46pm |
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I am so sad to hear this news she will be missed by many. Pat |
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Dx 5/07 TNBC
IDC Stg.2, Gr.2, Sentinel node 0/1 BRCA- Lumpectomy,Chemo(AC-T DD)Rads |
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MsBliss
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Posted: Apr 15 2010 at 7:14pm |
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Oh my goodness, Mainy, your words...are so beautiful.
I did not get to know Brenda but from what I see here, I feel I would have been so grateful to have been her friend. My deepest condolences to her family and many friends. |
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Posted: Apr 15 2010 at 7:20pm |
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Greg,
You and your family have my deepest sympathies. I am so sorry for your loss. Mary, Thanks for updating us about Brenda. I saw her picture on Facebook and could see all the love she had surrounded by her family. Donna PS: Mainy, your words were beautiful. |
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DX IDC TNBC 6/09 age 49, Stage 1,Grade 3, 1.5cm,0/5Nodes,KI-67 48%,BRCA-,6/09bi-mx, recon, T/C X4(9/09)
11/10 Recur IM node, Gem,Carb,Iniparib 12/10,MRI NED 2/11,IMRT Radsx40,CT NED11/13,MRI NED3/15 |
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ryleigh0605
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Posted: Apr 15 2010 at 8:03pm |
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I am so sorry to hear that you have lost someone dear to your heart. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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Diana, mother of 2, grandmother of 3
dx 8/07 IDC with medullary features, 1.87cm grade 3, stage 1, 1 node-neg, BRCA neg, Biateral 9/07, ACx4 |
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CarynRose
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Posted: Apr 18 2010 at 9:41am |
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Leave it to Brenda....she's still on my Facebook -- playing Farmville!!!
G-dspeed my friend.
Love,
Caryn
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Orig dx 6/03 - St.2a, IDC
gr.3,0 nodes, TNBC/BRCA1+ 7/07 St 4 mets to nodes/lungs. PACA/Rads NED 11/07-10/08 Lepto mets 10/08 Rads for 4 brain tumors 4/10. Leptomets return 6/10 |
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Posted: Apr 18 2010 at 1:20pm |
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This is so very sad, Greg I am so sorry for your loss and yes what a very loving story.
My condolences to you, her friends and family.
Like Caryn she is also on my facebook page busy as a bee.
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Linda England
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Posted: Apr 22 2010 at 9:23pm |
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I just joined this forum. I am so sorry for your loss. I cried reading the posts about Brenda, especially the one from her husband, Greg. If I have a choice that's how I want to go...hearing the person I trust more than life itself telling me "I love you" and holding my hand. I'm so glad she spent the last part of her life at home with people who love her. Even though we don't know each other, this thing connects us right away, doesn't it, Greg? I send you and your family my love and hugs...
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linda Edited by Linda England - Apr 22 2010 at 9:26pm |
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IDC/DCIS Stage I Grade 3 2cm Ki-67 = 90% rt brst Nodes=0 bilat mast 10/29/09 no reconst 4/6 FEC + 4 dose-dense Taxotere + Neulasta www.idc101.blogspot.com |
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