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alene View Drop Down
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    Posted: Jan 26 2009 at 12:07pm

Okay...I'm in the beginnings of radiation...

Lost our business...No income...
Of course don't qualify for SSDI - Only Stage IIIc
Don't qualify for SSI or medicaid- have a house and a rental
Rental up for sale since September...of course not even one bite...
Don't qualify for unemployment...Business owners pay into Unemployment but aren't allowed to apply for it ....
Don't have a college degree...Don't know if we should reopen business(computer support co.) or get training for a job.
 
Need to come up with 8500.00 for out-of-pocket max for insurance for this year...And then there's of course...that old food, housepayment, light bill stuff...oh and mustn't forget to pay that $550 per month - health insurance bill...
 
Still have reconstruction surgery in my future...Am told that you have to wait 2 months after radiation.. to begin reconstructing me.....then the 1st surgery has a 2 month recoup time..
 
Kinda hard to apply for a job...and explain that you have radiation every day...then you'll need 2 months off for surgery...yadda yadda yadda...I'm exhausted and in pain all of the time...don't really know how..I could work...
 
Can't sit doing nothing forever...It's been since May 2008 that my world stopped...
 
How do you decide when and how to rejoin the working world...
 
How on earth do you proceed....How do you put humpty dumpty's life back together again...
 
Seems like training during my down time...might make sense...
 
But...
Signing up for training classes right now...is a little like ....deciding whether to get a root canal...or temporary fillings...
 
Am I waste of money...or...do I have a future?
 
The light in my crystal ball...burned out...anyone know where I can get a replacement bulb?
 
 


Edited by alene - Jan 26 2009 at 12:09pm
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Alene one thing I do have an answer for and that is you are not a waste of money and of course you have a future.  Evidently things are falling in on you in bunches as they usually do and you are overwhelmed.  You have reason to be but doing the right thing by asking where to turn.
 
I will give you some links that might have resources for you.  Also have you considered counseling and/or a mild sedative?  Our government to me personally seems to have things mixed up when it comes to who can apply for financial/medical help.  Does your State have a law, some do, regarding insurance such as Cobra, or temporary help.
I'm so sorry this is all happening, I hope you will find what you need, that hand reaching out to you to pick you up from the nastiness of this disease and walk you down the right path for that replacement bulb.Smile
 
 
 
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Dear Alene,

Ahh your story sounds much like mine... I had been running an Italian import store since 2003, my husband sold his business back in 2005 and he started working in my store as I went out on the road to grow our wholesale business... Then the **it it the fan so to speak in 5/07, when I found out I had TNBC... So life for me stopped, and my husband took over the running of the store, and the wholesale business when down the toilet so to speak! My husband made several bad decisions regarding the store and this last December the weather turned bad and kill the rest of the christmas season for us...Confused

Blah blah...Wacko

With all of that being said, it was clear back in September (after I finished my treatment and spent 6 weeks in Europe) that the insurance payment of $1300 per month was not going to be happening for much longer, so since my husband did not want to get a job I had to... I think at time I had said that I felt like a bird being pushed out of the nest to soon and being forced to fly... And fly I have!!! I have been working for 3 months now..

Although I hate said job, I do rejoice in the fact that I pay only $46.00 per month for insurance. And some how the shop is still holding on... (by a the grace of god!!!)

But you have to do what you have to do, don't look back and don't spend too much time trying to second guess what will be... Live in the moment! Live for today...

"Living well is the best revenge..." So show cancer who's bossBig%20smile  get back to your life the best you can and enjoy today!

Hugs,
Beth Anne
Dx 5/07 DCIS Stage3 gr9 A/C x 6, Abrax x 16 Bi-Mass 2/08
Navelbine x 12, finished radiation end of July 08. DX Brain Met's 2/09StageIV
CK3/09.Brain resection4/09 WBR
Dreaming of dancing with Ned!
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