Chemo/Radiation in elderly

A friends frail mother 80 years old has been diagnosed with stage 2 TNBC with mets to the liver.  Any input is welcome. Debating treatment vs quality of life.  Thanks much!

PET scan revealed the liver mets.  She was told yesterday.  Chemo/radiation was only treatment discussed/offered.  Personally, I think the treatment will do more harm than the CA.  My mother had breast CA, not TNBC stage 1 at age 82.  Underwent treatment and today 3 years later, her dementia has rendered her to that of a 6 year old.  I feel the lumpectomy and post treatment accelerated any dementia she may have had.  At the time of her diagnosis it was not evident.  At age 82 one has lived a full life and is at the shorter side of a future.  Live it to it's fullest with breast CA at that point rather than totally unaware, cancer free for the next few years.  Thank you for your response.

I nearly quit chemo at 58.  Cant image how hard it would be on a frail 80 year old. Plus when you do surgery  or something as difficult as treatment it is a very very common thing for people of that age to get dementia.My doctors all said this about my parents.  And it proved correct.  My mom and dad had surgeries and sure enough.  Both started down that slope.  I have talked to many others and their parents had the same reaction. But it is a hard decision because we want to keep our parents as long as possible but unfortunately the time we then have with them is not the easiest.

Hi: my wife has had diarrhea since her last chemo she has done lots of research to see what happens to the intestine, I think the lining sheds, where she is vulnerable , it's gotten lots worse,  she has a list of foods that are no good, she takes culteralle enzymes...she isn't losing weight, but the trips to bathroom are really concernings, any suggestions? thanks

Hi Gordon, I'm with mainsailset, diarrhea that continues is of concern.

Thank you all for taking the time to respond. My wife had IBS after chemo in 2008, I think it didn't subside for about a year. (as did her blood counts) @ 58yrs old.
This time is the same or worse, she's not dehydrated, but thank you for reminding me of this urgency. I appreciate it. She finished chemo in May, her surgeon said "this is not normal" and she has an Onco apt in 2 weeks, he said he would refer to Gastro-Ent last time she say him. I'm urging her to it, although she is trying to use diet to remadie.
She's tried the over-the counter Immodium or prilosec, stuff mostly, then she get's constipated, what she is really concerned is that any inflamation, cancer can migrate to there, thank you cheek also, I don't think she has that C-diff, Mayo symptoms say it occurs after antibiotics, and cramps in abdomen, so she doesn't have that. It's just a repeated "urge" after eating almost anything, she's due for mammo usual screening soon, my wife has asked for an ultrasound also, and she's due for a PET also in the next month, last time her GI track was clear, so I guess this is something we all deal with and try to get stable. hanks again, all.

Renate I am very sorry to hear about your complications ans appreciate you advice, she tried the ammodium, she went the other way with constipation. She takes pepto, I told her about C-diff, I will tell her again, she's not dehydrated, but the stomach is sending a signal to her intestine to "move" how does the signal go from the stomach that quickly? thank you God bless you overcome this also.

Hi. What are those enzymes called? Rx? thanks

J: thanks for the info, my wife discovered that this supplement might cause blood clots, I have no idea what's true, she's ordered from Amazn lots of supliments, she thinks it's "too little" stomach acid, she's keen on bloodclot info b/c it runs in her family, her Mom, a propensity to  it. pm me anytime, thanks for everything. G

Hi Jackilin, sorry not getting back sooner, my wife has blood clots running in her family, on her Mom's side. I don't know if this med is good or bad, she consults Dr. Google on a reg basis. if she's spooked by it, fine by me, less Amazon charges on our credit. :~) She can ask oncologist soon, at her apt. She's ordered lots of stuff, to stabilize he intestinal problems, and changing her diet, this doesn't happen overnight, after Taxol, it might kill microscopic cancer cells but it does a number on the intestine, that I guess takes time to figure out. She has PET soon also, so any cancer in gut should be discovered, there wasn't anything last time. thanks for you concern, anything I can help, just ask/