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Sorry to inform, but my love died Feb. 14th from her canser,

Rikke is now will always be missed

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i am so sorry... may God be with you and your family at this time and always.
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Dear Rikke's husband,

Please accept my sympathy. I know you and the children will miss her a lot.

Thank you for letting us know about the death of Rikke. She was a fighter.

Love in Christ,

Lillie
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6/06 Axillary Dissection 9 Nodes-
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No RECON - 01/2010 NED
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Dear Rikke's husband.  I am so sorry for your loss.  Would you say a few words about her life, or paste in her obituary summary?  We'd like to make a tribute page for her in the tribute subforum, so her precious life and all she suffered can be remembered by this community.
Love,
Denise


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DX 2/08@43 stg II IDC; gr2,no nodes. Neoadj chemo, first ACx2 (fail) then CarboTaxotereX6(better). Lump, Rads done 11/18/08; Clodronate. False alarm queen: PetCT lung & TM marker & leg lump. NED
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Hey, I just went back to look at 'Dane's' posts to help me remember her, and wow, what a fantastic person.  She was always very encouraging to others, very kind and forthcoming.   She played her cards with a ton of grace, that's for sure.  Did she leave a whole lot of recorded memories for her kids?  She wrote about that here - they sound very special.  You and your kids were lucky to have her.    If at all possible, she will watch over you.

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DX 2/08@43 stg II IDC; gr2,no nodes. Neoadj chemo, first ACx2 (fail) then CarboTaxotereX6(better). Lump, Rads done 11/18/08; Clodronate. False alarm queen: PetCT lung & TM marker & leg lump. NED
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Dear Rikke's husband and children:
 
I am so sorry for the loss of your wife and mother.  Please know that Rikke fought a great battle to stay here but it just was not to be.  I hope Rikke was able to make the recordings she wanted to leave for you all.  She was so concerned about not being here for you. 
 
I believe Denise's request for Rikke's obituary is a good idea, because Rikke (Dane) posted some very nice notes here on our TNBC Family site and we would like to have a memorial page for her honor and her fight with us...so if there is some way we could get a copy that would be great.
 
Please know that we will keep you and your family in our thoughts and prayers and we are here for you, should you have any questions or concerns about Rikke's TNBC.  God Bless you all,
Rikke's sister on the journey of TNBC, Helen in Nova Scotia, Canada
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Dear Rikke's husband,

I'm so sorry for you and your family's loss.  You must miss her terribly.  Your family will be in our prayers.

Donna


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DX IDC TNBC 6/09 age 49, Stage 1,Grade 3, 1.5cm,0/5 nodes,BRCA-
6/09 bilat mastectomy-tissue exp,11/09 exchange surgery
Taxotere/CytoxanX4, finished 9/09, 11/09 CT Liver Scan Clear, (S0307)Clodronate
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DX 2/08@43 stg II IDC; gr2,0 nodes. Neoadj chemo, first ACx2 (fail) then CarboTaxotereX6(better). Lump, Rads done 11/08; Clodronate. False alarm queen: PetCT lung & TM marker. NED. PBM w/recon 9/10.
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I think I found a commentary on her life by her doctor:

Saturday, March 20, 2010

Denmark

R.N. just died.

She was my first breast cancer patient out of fellowship and training. My first breast cancer patient where I was the "doctor". No backup. Nobody to turn to for advice. I write the orders, I explain the side effects. I hold the hands.

She was only 33 years old when she was diagnosed 4 years ago.

She and her husband had just moved from Denmark only months before for his company. Something with maritime equipment that brought him to the mid-Atlantic.

Then she found the lump. A small, 1 cm mass in her breast.

So young.

Triple-negative. A bad prognosis.

But, still stage I.

She got chemo, lots of chemo. bilateral mastectomies. We took her ovaries out when we saw that she had a genetic predisposition to breast and ovarian cancer.

All the while, I learned a little bit about Scandinavian stoicism.

She and her husband and their three children were amazing. Gentle, intelligent, kind. So loving and so close.

Well, you know the deal.

She relapsed only 7 months after therapy.

We tossed the book at her. More chemo. Even salvage radiation to the arm and neck.

Another remission.

Maintenance chemo.

And then, home.

She went back 18 months ago.

She died two weeks ago.

During her course, she became very philosophical, as we all do during illness. She started to read about diet and about this woman, Jane Plant, a British scientist who advocated dietary changes to combat cancer. Who felt that much of breast and prostate cancer is related to meat and dairy products and that we need a radical way of overhauling our diet to better suit what we were evolved to eat.

She gave me a book, "Your Life In Your Hands", by Dr. Plant.

I was rummaging around, rearranging my bookshelf today, and I came across it. My patients know I love to read, so I have a little section with gifts from them and here was R.N.'s book.

In it, she inscribed that she hoped that I could learn something from this. That she wished she had learned something about diet and lifestyle growing up, if only to give her a slightly better chance of surviving.

That she knew she might die. But, that she hoped that I would learn from this book. That maybe I would incorporate some of the insights into my own health.

But, mostly, that maybe I would spread this gospel to others. That we CAN do something about our health. That our toxic lifestyle and food supply is at the root of many of our medical problems, both physiologic and psychologic.

I have striven to live up to this for the past couple years. I preach health to patients and friends. I have tried to change my own behavior, to live with less. To eat and live consciously, for health, but also for animal rights and for ecological reasons.

I have tried.

Rikke, I hope you are at peace. You were one of my most memorable patients.

You have changed my life forever.
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DX 2/08@43 stg II IDC; gr2,0 nodes. Neoadj chemo, first ACx2 (fail) then CarboTaxotereX6(better). Lump, Rads done 11/08; Clodronate. False alarm queen: PetCT lung & TM marker. NED. PBM w/recon 9/10.
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Here is Rikke's obituary, but it is not in English... Maybe someone could translate.  Thanks..
 
Diag@57TNBC04/092.5cm Lquad 05/09 TCx4Radsx30CT03/01/10 FU03/31/10ClearBRCA- 01/2011 RTNBC BMX 06/14/2011~2013 clear
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Hi Denise

Thanks for the nice words, and yes she left a lot of movie and voice recording where she tells about her childhood.. she now lives through our 3 kids, and they have all the same nice personality. My love was very very special and we will miss her a lot.

Our frends from USA, made this movie from the time they visited us in Denmark: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zi-YdIx7E3w

Love,
Jan
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Chemo:AC-T
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Dear Rikke's husband,

You wife was a very special woman and I have no brilliant words other than to say I am truly sorry for the family's loss. I am BRCA1+ also and passed it along to my daughter.

I lost my best friend of 50 years to cancer several years ago. A bereavement specialist who helped me through my friend's final journey suggested I get a book/CDs called "Graceful Passages." There are different passages, some religious (various faiths), many not and I found it to be very helpful as I grieved.

If you send me a PM with your address I would be happy to send this to you as a gift.

you have my sincere condolences..thank you for letting us know.

Steve
I am a BRCA1(187delAG)+ grandson, son and father of women affected by breast/oc-my daughter, inherited the mutation from me, and at age 36, was dx 2004 TNBC
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Jan:

I just watched the lovely video of your Rikke and it was beautiful!  Rikke was very special to you, I can see that in her eyes.  Be happy for the times you have spent together and know that she will always be in your heart no matter where or what you do.   Do not let the grief take over your life, live like she is with you always and enjoy your children because they are a part of you both and she lives on in each of you!  

Thank you for sharing this video with all of us,
With Love to you all,  a sister on the journey, Helen in Nova Scotia, Canada 


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Diag 57 TNBC 04/09
SN biopsy neg
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TCx4 07/09 Comp 10/09
Rad x 16 12/09 Comp 12/31/09
CT 03/01/10 FU 03/31/10 rad/med/onc NED
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Thank you for sharing your very special video.. I write this through tears, tears for a woman I never met... tears for your loss... tears for a woman who passed much too young. May God be with you and your family...  may you always feel her arms around you, and know that she is always with you. Autumn
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Jan,

I just watched the you tube video and it was so beautiful.  I still have tears running down my face.  Your wife was a lovely person and I know you and your children will miss her dearly.   Such a beautiful person and spirit.

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My deepest condolences to you and the children.  May God give you strength at this most tragic loss.
 
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My condolences to you and her family.  I remember her, she was such a good person.Heart
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