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    Posted: Aug 09 2017 at 11:17pm
Obituary for Lorenda: http://affordableduluth.com/obituaries/lorenda-ingersoll/168/

On July 21, I lost my wife of almost 40 years (3 weeks shy). This site was one of the first places I turned to for help/information after her initial tnbc diagnosis in 2009, so I thought it would be appropriate to post this here.  

Lorenda was diagnosed with TNBC on 2 separate occasions 5 years apart. Docs insist it was a "new primary" in 2014. During the last 3 years, her disease progressed slowly but surely despite the bilateral mx, radiation and almost continuous chemo (adriamycin/cytoxane docetaxel, gemcitabine, carboplatin, navelbine, xeloda in various combinations) - including finishing whole brain radiation a week before she died. In the end, it was a combination of pneumonia and heart damage (likely caused by "life-time max" of doxirubicin) that she couldn't fight. We knew the end was coming, but this happened so fast, that I still can't believe it when I look at pictures of her with the grandkids just a week before she passed! All the talk of palliative care and hospice . . . we were determined to be ready to deal with what was coming - but she didn't make it there :-(

I've never known loss of this depth - it physically hurts to think of not having her here to grow old with . . .

Brad
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New dx -8/14.
1.6 cm tumor-new primary L breast
bi-mx, recon
nodes 16/16 +
BRCA1/2 -
chemo- TBD
rad - TBD

6/09 dx stage 1, gr3
lumpectomy, DD ACx4,Taxol x8/12 rad x33
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Oh Brad, my heart goes out to you. I read the obituary - your wife was beautiful and gave so much love to so many. Grief for someone you love so deeply is not something you can prepare for or imagine. I hope your kids and grandkids will provide some comfort. Thank you for sharing this sad news and a bit about your loving, giving soulmate.
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Thank you Meadow for your kind words.

It just felt like I needed to share this with folks that really get what this disease is about. My kids/grandkids and work "family" have been wonderful and supportive for me and I will continue to lean on them. So many people have gone through what I am experiencing - yet each relationship is so unique that it feels like nobody else could possibly understand how I feel . . .
Broken Heart Brad
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Husband of Lorenda
New dx -8/14.
1.6 cm tumor-new primary L breast
bi-mx, recon
nodes 16/16 +
BRCA1/2 -
chemo- TBD
rad - TBD

6/09 dx stage 1, gr3
lumpectomy, DD ACx4,Taxol x8/12 rad x33
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